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Grieving The Past In Recovery

It is interesting how a certain place can trigger emotions and memories and just being back there can bring things flooding back.

Earlier today I had to do something in the next town to where I’m currently living with my family.
This meant retuning to a place that holds many memories…

These include happy pre eating disorder memories of when I was free of the illness, young, enjoying life, loving the people with me & happy.
But also, this town holds later memories of years I was consumed by the illness, miserable & isolated.

In recent years I have avoided consciously remembering any of this – not the good times, not the bad times.

As I drove back there today I suddenly found myself silently weeping, hit by a tidal wave of so many memories…

I was weeping for the person I once was in this town – young, fun, happy and in love with life and the people around me and I cried for the loss of that young woman and for the miserable years since.

Interspersed with this were flashbacks to some of the experiences I endured in this town because of the eating disorder…. memories of a way of life still too recent and frightening to contemplate.

Of course, during the illness I would feel none of this.

I could sweep difficult memories away with the eating disorder and I was numb inside.
I did not acknowledge what joy had gone before or what had replaced it when I was sick.

Remembering these things today, the flood of memories and the emotions entangled within them are difficult to sit with and hit very unexpectedly.
But now I can at least use them in recovery.

I have to remind myself that the young happy woman was me and I’m still here… I might be a bit (or a lot!) older now but the fun, loving side of me is still deeply buried within and slowly creeping out – she did not die, she just got lost.

And with flashbacks to the miserable life in the illness and in feeling that pain, I can use those memories to make sure those days don’t come back.

Like many with an eating disorder, I have lost people and relationships and years that might have been joy filled were not.

Today, I can feel that loss, allow myself the tears and grief but then grow from it in recovery.

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